Omg. That ending for ep10 Heart — who thinks Hong-do with her two raised arms look like a sheepish cat caught in the act of cream stealing? (me!) In case you are wondering what the hell I’m talking about: ending of ep10 has Yi-seok discovering Hong-do’s secret of playacting as a granny, in the WORST possible way. Ever. Why? Cos Grandpa Ko is in the SAME restaurant, proposing to “Granny Oh” (aka Hong-do in her granny-guise). *ouch* 2 men killed in 1 shot. Then again, I’m not too worried that our OTP will be mad with each other for long — Hong-do has a way with Yi-seok, and Yi-seok can be uncharacteristically patient with Hong-do.
Anyway, back to this post’s topic. Many of us have started pointing out that Doo-soo’s behaviour (after realising he likes Hong-do) borders on bullying. Eps9/10 dismisses the rumours, by proving them to be fact. Yup, Doo-soo does indeed have a very large sense of entitlement — especially when it comes to women.
We learn from him that he is the first grandson of the first son in the family clan — a really huge thing in Asian culture. And Hong-do succintly highlights to Doo-soo (and us) that with his status, even should he give a little sneeze, the whole town will panic and start preparing medicated soup for him to drink. An exaggeration, perhaps. But true, nonetheless. Doo-soo himself admits to it being so.
We have guessed, from bits and pieces, that Doo-soo belongs to a big, traditional family. And likely, with some money. He nearly broke his parents’ (and grandparents’) hearts when he insisted on joining the police force, instead of taking the “usual route” (referring to taking over a family business?). Doo-soo also admits it took him a lot of courage to break the mold and ignore his family’s request. He admits that Hong-do made him feel that he didn’t choose the wrong path when she showed her little appreciations (for a constant 7 years).
Belonging in a huge, traditional family with deeply ingrained beliefs may have made Doo-soo a little passive. Likely most decisions are already pre-made, because things have always been done in certain ways (usually the case when your family is a clan). It can explain Doo-soo’s passivity when he is told to marry his fiancee after a few arranged meetings.
But taken in another perspective, his general acceptance that his fiancee will like him (even though it’s clearly an arranged marriage) and his blase acknowledgement of Hong-do’s foc, 7-years’ banchan supply also hint that he is used to being “appreciated”, of being fawned on. It is nothing new to him that he is at the centre of someone else’s universe. In the past, it was his family. More recently, it was Hong-do and his fiancee.
So, to have his fiancee break off the marriage first, is akin to her slapping him in the face. Notice that even though he senses something is amiss during the wedding preps, he doesn’t make the first move to delay the marriage. You’d think he’d juz have gone through with it if his ex-fiancee hasn’t raised the obvious problem — that he doesn’t like her. Right after the rejection by his fiancee, he immediately leaps to the second moon that he knew had been orbiting around his space for some time — Hong-do.
Only to find that she too, has fallen in love with someone else. Oops. Suddenly, Doo-soo is thrown off orbit, with no one dependent on him, and no one interested in playing supplicant to him. So you get more scenes of Doo-soo the Perfect Gentleman becoming Doo-soo the Aggravated Bully. Let’s list what he has done in juz 4 eps: he is constantly wrist grabbing Hong-do, he pulls her forcibly away from Yi-seok, he shoves Hong-do into his car, he pays for her rent (without her consent), and in ep10, he said these ultimate hurting words in her face: he’d rather Hong-do remains “broken”, so that she can only look at him, and he can keep her back in her box (house).
Wow. He’d rather have a broken partner who doesn’t grow into her potential, juz so that he can keep her as a pet? (i seriously wanna slap him when he said that) Doo-soo’s opinion of women may have been formed due to years of mothers, sisters, aunts and grandmas coddling him and placing him on a pedestal — being first in line and all. But since he claimed to have “broken free” from the rigidity of his traditional family, you’d have thought he’d revised his impression of women paying natural servitude to him. Apparently, not.